Comments for Gillianic Tendencies

Comment on by Gillian

Gillian — Thu, 19 Apr 2012 16:22:11 +0000

Christine: Thanks for the mention of the grief society, I hadn’t heard of them. I’m not sure if I need them at this time, as I’m getting individual grief counselling, but I will keep them in mind for future.

Comment on by Christine

Christine — Tue, 17 Apr 2012 20:32:01 +0000

Very sorry for your loss. This post brought tears to my eyes having lost my father a little over 2 years ago. I know what you mean when you say you have the wind knocked out of you at random times. It is hard to control those emotions when you are in public some times. What really helped me was joining a support group. I found that I didn’t want to talk to friends and family about how I was feeling as I didn’t want them to think I was constantly being a downer. Sharing what you are going through with a group counsellor/facilitator and others who have experienced a recent loss can be very helpful. There is no judgement and it’s acceptable to break down and lose it in front of the group. I have made a couple of friends from the group I joined, one being a fellow who lost his mother around the same time I did and a women who lost a 17 year old son in a car accident. Everyone’s story is different but the feelings are the same.

If you are interested, google Lower Mainland Grief Recovery Society. The group meets for 10 weeks, once a week. They have a group up in Kerrisdale and one downtown at one of the church’s around Burrard and Nelson. There is no religious affiliation.

You share your Dad’s eye’s, beautiful color.

Comment on by Colene

Colene — Fri, 13 Apr 2012 06:17:14 +0000

Aw, I’m so sorry to hear about your dad. Sending you good thoughts and hugs.

Comment on by Beth

Beth — Fri, 13 Apr 2012 05:03:11 +0000

I’m so sorry for your loss. Having lost my dad recently too, I know exactly what you are talking about when you say have the wind knocked out of you at random intervals. So many times I find myself thinking “I have to tell Dad that!” and then, like you said, I realize that I can’t. I really thought I’d have more time with my Dad – as I’m sure you thought too – and it’s hard to come to terms with the fact that I won’t. My heart goes out to you and your family.

Comment on by Fred

Fred — Wed, 11 Apr 2012 16:00:53 +0000

I miss my dad too. Cancer took him too and I hate cancer for doing it.
Glad I didn’t make you stop blogging.

Comment on by John Bauder

John Bauder — Fri, 06 Apr 2012 01:05:11 +0000

Word!

Been there with both of my parents by the time I was 19. It took until well into my mid-30s before I stopped feeling alone.

I know you’ll come to realize you’re not. In the meantime there will be moments that really sick – that’s just the way it is. Please don’t try to fight it.

Know that we are here for you and you’re definitely on our to-visit list when in Vancouver in a couple months!

Uncles Fuzz and whatever you call me…

Comment on by Jeremy bonnett

Jeremy bonnett — Thu, 05 Apr 2012 18:12:40 +0000

I am so very sorry Gillian. Your post was beautiful and brought tears to my eyes. I pray each day will be a little bit better than the last.

Comment on by Mel

Mel — Thu, 05 Apr 2012 15:52:11 +0000

*hugs* Sending you our love, Gill.

Comment on by Kimli

Kimli — Thu, 05 Apr 2012 15:36:18 +0000

Love you, Gill.

Comment on by jhawke

jhawke — Thu, 05 Apr 2012 10:55:48 +0000

just sitting here wiping tears from my eyes and thinking of you. nothing in the world that I can think to say to such a touching and heart-wrenching post. I hope time is kind to your healing process.