Comments on: The interpretation of nice http://gunson.ca/blog/2009/09/13/the-interpretation-of-nice/ Now back in Vancouver where it sure rains more than I remember Thu, 19 Jan 2012 23:19:34 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Don’t tell my probation officer – Gillianic Tendencies http://gunson.ca/blog/2009/09/13/the-interpretation-of-nice/comment-page-1/#comment-59080 Don’t tell my probation officer – Gillianic Tendencies Wed, 04 Nov 2009 04:10:11 +0000 http://gunson.ca/blog/?p=2197#comment-59080 [...] I did complain a while back about my discomfort at all the niceness of the people here, it now just feels regular and I’m [...] [...] I did complain a while back about my discomfort at all the niceness of the people here, it now just feels regular and I’m [...]

]]> By: Ed http://gunson.ca/blog/2009/09/13/the-interpretation-of-nice/comment-page-1/#comment-59042 Ed Tue, 29 Sep 2009 02:29:12 +0000 http://gunson.ca/blog/?p=2197#comment-59042 Here in North Van, people say hi. Late at night I'm guessing those same people are the ones kicking in car doors. I'M ON TO YOU! Miss you :o Here in North Van, people say hi. Late at night I’m guessing those same people are the ones kicking in car doors. I’M ON TO YOU!

Miss you :o

]]> By: Derek K. Miller http://gunson.ca/blog/2009/09/13/the-interpretation-of-nice/comment-page-1/#comment-59039 Derek K. Miller Sat, 26 Sep 2009 08:30:01 +0000 http://gunson.ca/blog/?p=2197#comment-59039 Dan Savage has taken to using the word "<a href="http://www.straight.com/article-216518/stop-being-such-leotard" rel="nofollow">leotarded</a>" instead of "retarded," so maybe you could move on to, uh, "nervous shakedown"? Dan Savage has taken to using the word “leotarded” instead of “retarded,” so maybe you could move on to, uh, “nervous shakedown”?

]]> By: dodo http://gunson.ca/blog/2009/09/13/the-interpretation-of-nice/comment-page-1/#comment-59034 dodo Mon, 21 Sep 2009 21:10:53 +0000 http://gunson.ca/blog/?p=2197#comment-59034 Come back, Gill, we like you more here than in Kelowna. Come back, Gill, we like you more here than in Kelowna.

]]> By: Chrissy http://gunson.ca/blog/2009/09/13/the-interpretation-of-nice/comment-page-1/#comment-59030 Chrissy Fri, 18 Sep 2009 00:28:45 +0000 http://gunson.ca/blog/?p=2197#comment-59030 Nervous breakdown! Nervous breakdown! Nervous breakdown! Say it as much as you want, and don't feel you have to be overly "pc", wtf, it's your blog! And while we're at it - Merry Christmas! Oh, and yes - retarded! There. I said it all. No pc here! Seriously though, I know exactly what you mean about the friendliness being weird. I get that a bit with my new job too. Nervous breakdown! Nervous breakdown! Nervous breakdown! Say it as much as you want, and don’t feel you have to be overly “pc”, wtf, it’s your blog!

And while we’re at it – Merry Christmas! Oh, and yes – retarded!

There. I said it all. No pc here!

Seriously though, I know exactly what you mean about the friendliness being weird. I get that a bit with my new job too.

]]> By: Gillian http://gunson.ca/blog/2009/09/13/the-interpretation-of-nice/comment-page-1/#comment-59026 Gillian Tue, 15 Sep 2009 19:50:04 +0000 http://gunson.ca/blog/?p=2197#comment-59026 @Air Is "nervous breakdown" non-PC? My understanding was that it no longer meant anything to the health profession and was therefore fair game. Of course, I consider "retarded" to be usable for the same reason, but people will find issue with that too. Under the circumstances I don't think watching Patrick Swayze movies would make me any happier ;-) And I will say I'm not being melodramatic in my choice of words, the move has been hard and emotionally straining and I've been helped greatly by a workmate who's witnessed me crying into my beer (my preferred receptacle). However, there are a number of factors making things difficult (such as the shoulder injury), and understanding things like why I'm finding smiling people so difficult is helping me already. @Air Is “nervous breakdown” non-PC? My understanding was that it no longer meant anything to the health profession and was therefore fair game. Of course, I consider “retarded” to be usable for the same reason, but people will find issue with that too.

Under the circumstances I don’t think watching Patrick Swayze movies would make me any happier ;-)

And I will say I’m not being melodramatic in my choice of words, the move has been hard and emotionally straining and I’ve been helped greatly by a workmate who’s witnessed me crying into my beer (my preferred receptacle). However, there are a number of factors making things difficult (such as the shoulder injury), and understanding things like why I’m finding smiling people so difficult is helping me already.

]]> By: Air http://gunson.ca/blog/2009/09/13/the-interpretation-of-nice/comment-page-1/#comment-59025 Air Tue, 15 Sep 2009 17:53:18 +0000 http://gunson.ca/blog/?p=2197#comment-59025 If you really do think you are having a "nervous breakdown" then you need to talk to someone. Talk to your employer about Employee Assistance Program. You can just phrase it as "you are finding the move difficult." There is nothing wrong with that. Be as honest as you can with yourself and others. Nobody expects you to become a Mouseketeer. On the other hand, if you are using the term "nervous breakdown" to be dramatic, perhaps yo should re-think that choice of words. Perhaps you are over-tired and need to spend a day in bed watching Patrick Swayze movies and crying into a bag of microwave popcorn. If you really do think you are having a “nervous breakdown” then you need to talk to someone. Talk to your employer about Employee Assistance Program. You can just phrase it as “you are finding the move difficult.” There is nothing wrong with that. Be as honest as you can with yourself and others. Nobody expects you to become a Mouseketeer.

On the other hand, if you are using the term “nervous breakdown” to be dramatic, perhaps yo should re-think that choice of words. Perhaps you are over-tired and need to spend a day in bed watching Patrick Swayze movies and crying into a bag of microwave popcorn.

]]> By: Carla http://gunson.ca/blog/2009/09/13/the-interpretation-of-nice/comment-page-1/#comment-59024 Carla Tue, 15 Sep 2009 04:08:35 +0000 http://gunson.ca/blog/?p=2197#comment-59024 I had a similar reaction of "omg nice people!" when I moved to Vancouver from Boston... Though people didn't really talk to me on the street, just smile and nod as they passed. Maybe I make a freaky amount of eye contact or something. I found my Vancouver co-workers to be considerably more open and friendly than counterparts back East. I think the default indifference of people in Vancouver is just more polite than the default indifference of people in Boston. Kelowna niceness (which I only connected with its pronunciation after several weeks of watching the weather in the morning) would probably stun me into startled silence. Of course, I'm in the Philadelphia area now and people talk even less. The most recent random conversation I had was at Dairy Queen. A recent pair of Boston transplants were commenting on the lack of picnic tables at ice cream stands down here. I had a similar reaction of “omg nice people!” when I moved to Vancouver from Boston… Though people didn’t really talk to me on the street, just smile and nod as they passed. Maybe I make a freaky amount of eye contact or something. I found my Vancouver co-workers to be considerably more open and friendly than counterparts back East. I think the default indifference of people in Vancouver is just more polite than the default indifference of people in Boston. Kelowna niceness (which I only connected with its pronunciation after several weeks of watching the weather in the morning) would probably stun me into startled silence.

Of course, I’m in the Philadelphia area now and people talk even less. The most recent random conversation I had was at Dairy Queen. A recent pair of Boston transplants were commenting on the lack of picnic tables at ice cream stands down here.

]]> By: Gillian http://gunson.ca/blog/2009/09/13/the-interpretation-of-nice/comment-page-1/#comment-59023 Gillian Tue, 15 Sep 2009 03:05:25 +0000 http://gunson.ca/blog/?p=2197#comment-59023 @luc I agree, people in Vancouver are rather rude on transit. Of course, we're also essentially treated like cattle. It never occurred to me that I should be responding to comments, though. Thanks for pointing it out. Maybe one thing that surprises me about this is that I really don't notice this in Kitimat, where my mom lives, which has a population of maybe 8,000. Though I honestly don't spend a lot of time out in public while I'm there, and maybe that's why. @luc I agree, people in Vancouver are rather rude on transit. Of course, we’re also essentially treated like cattle.

It never occurred to me that I should be responding to comments, though. Thanks for pointing it out.

Maybe one thing that surprises me about this is that I really don’t notice this in Kitimat, where my mom lives, which has a population of maybe 8,000. Though I honestly don’t spend a lot of time out in public while I’m there, and maybe that’s why.

]]> By: Patricia http://gunson.ca/blog/2009/09/13/the-interpretation-of-nice/comment-page-1/#comment-59022 Patricia Tue, 15 Sep 2009 03:04:41 +0000 http://gunson.ca/blog/?p=2197#comment-59022 Yeah, the folks in the interior can be overly friendly. I'm surprised that my Mom hasn't baked you cookies and knitted you a sweater yet... (hehe don't worry, she's actually not in Kelowna but in Kamloops);-) Yeah, the folks in the interior can be overly friendly. I’m surprised that my Mom hasn’t baked you cookies and knitted you a sweater yet… (hehe don’t worry, she’s actually not in Kelowna but in Kamloops);-)

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