Comments on: http://gunson.ca/blog/2009/08/17/2161/ DBA: Default Blame Accepter Sat, 21 Aug 2010 01:39:02 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Derek K. Miller http://gunson.ca/blog/2009/08/17/2161/comment-page-1/#comment-58984 Derek K. Miller Wed, 19 Aug 2009 19:14:41 +0000 http://gunson.ca/blog/?p=2161#comment-58984 I've never moved cities. In fact, I've only ever lived in three different houses, and I've been in this one off and (mostly) on for all but four years of my entire 40-year life. So I certainly understand how hard it would feel to move to a new place. That said, perhaps look at it as not a permanent move, but just where you are right now. Maybe this company will give you an opportunity to move back to Vancouver in a couple of years. Or maybe the work you do will open opportunities for something cooler back in Van down the line. Plan that you will move back at some time; maybe you'll do that, or maybe you'll sneak up on yourself and end up staying despite your previous intentions. In the meantime, keep in touch with all of us, enjoy the Okanagan summer and fall and winter (with actual cold and snow!) and spring. And let everyone know when you're back in town, however briefly, of course. I’ve never moved cities. In fact, I’ve only ever lived in three different houses, and I’ve been in this one off and (mostly) on for all but four years of my entire 40-year life. So I certainly understand how hard it would feel to move to a new place.

That said, perhaps look at it as not a permanent move, but just where you are right now. Maybe this company will give you an opportunity to move back to Vancouver in a couple of years. Or maybe the work you do will open opportunities for something cooler back in Van down the line. Plan that you will move back at some time; maybe you’ll do that, or maybe you’ll sneak up on yourself and end up staying despite your previous intentions.

In the meantime, keep in touch with all of us, enjoy the Okanagan summer and fall and winter (with actual cold and snow!) and spring. And let everyone know when you’re back in town, however briefly, of course.

]]> By: Patricia http://gunson.ca/blog/2009/08/17/2161/comment-page-1/#comment-58982 Patricia Wed, 19 Aug 2009 04:35:54 +0000 http://gunson.ca/blog/?p=2161#comment-58982 I feel homesick when I'm away from Vancouver too, even when I travel to an exotic location for vacation. People in the interior are pretty friendly though. Have you thought about signing up for an activity or classes in something you're interested in? I've often found that the best way to settle in and get to know people quickly in a new setting. best wishes, P. I feel homesick when I’m away from Vancouver too, even when I travel to an exotic location for vacation.

People in the interior are pretty friendly though. Have you thought about signing up for an activity or classes in something you’re interested in? I’ve often found that the best way to settle in and get to know people quickly in a new setting.

best wishes,
P.

]]> By: melanie http://gunson.ca/blog/2009/08/17/2161/comment-page-1/#comment-58981 melanie Wed, 19 Aug 2009 03:03:49 +0000 http://gunson.ca/blog/?p=2161#comment-58981 Awe Gillian. I know it is damn hard . The best thing to do is get involved in activities outside of work. Anything as long as it's something you enjoy. I've spent my entire life moving around, not just different cities but different countries. Awe Gillian. I know it is damn hard . The best thing to do is get involved in activities outside of work. Anything as long as it’s something you enjoy. I’ve spent my entire life moving around, not just different cities but different countries.

]]> By: Sue http://gunson.ca/blog/2009/08/17/2161/comment-page-1/#comment-58977 Sue Tue, 18 Aug 2009 22:25:07 +0000 http://gunson.ca/blog/?p=2161#comment-58977 I've actually heard it takes TWO years to settle into a new city. Which basically is teh suck. I found that one year wasn't quite enough when moving back to Victoria, and hell I grew up here, so you'd think I'd feel at home. I guess what I'm saying is, this will pass - not soon enough to be a cheery thing to look forward to, but eventually. In the meantime try not to focus too much on how miserable you are - it just interferes with finding good stuff about your new life. I’ve actually heard it takes TWO years to settle into a new city. Which basically is teh suck. I found that one year wasn’t quite enough when moving back to Victoria, and hell I grew up here, so you’d think I’d feel at home.

I guess what I’m saying is, this will pass – not soon enough to be a cheery thing to look forward to, but eventually. In the meantime try not to focus too much on how miserable you are – it just interferes with finding good stuff about your new life.

]]> By: Tanya (aka NetChick) http://gunson.ca/blog/2009/08/17/2161/comment-page-1/#comment-58976 Tanya (aka NetChick) Tue, 18 Aug 2009 19:28:09 +0000 http://gunson.ca/blog/?p=2161#comment-58976 Hey girl... I know just how you are feeling. I've moved a number of times to strange cities on my own, with no one. It's hard. But, it's also rewarding -- I reinvented myself, and grew. Thankfully, you are just a drive away, and I'm so glad to hear you are in town for the long weekend. Hopefully you can make it to the engagement party? I'd love to have you there. You are going to settle in, just give it time. Try to enjoy the experience... Even though the beginning ALWAYS sucks. Hey girl… I know just how you are feeling. I’ve moved a number of times to strange cities on my own, with no one. It’s hard.

But, it’s also rewarding — I reinvented myself, and grew.

Thankfully, you are just a drive away, and I’m so glad to hear you are in town for the long weekend. Hopefully you can make it to the engagement party? I’d love to have you there.

You are going to settle in, just give it time. Try to enjoy the experience… Even though the beginning ALWAYS sucks.

]]> By: Mark Atwood http://gunson.ca/blog/2009/08/17/2161/comment-page-1/#comment-58975 Mark Atwood Tue, 18 Aug 2009 18:45:23 +0000 http://gunson.ca/blog/?p=2161#comment-58975 It always takes me over a year to get used to a new city. This is not uncommon. In fact, I think that people who move from city to city easily, and yet get comfortable in calling it "home" very quickly, are very rare. It always takes me over a year to get used to a new city. This is not uncommon. In fact, I think that people who move from city to city easily, and yet get comfortable in calling it “home” very quickly, are very rare.

]]> By: Monica Hamburg http://gunson.ca/blog/2009/08/17/2161/comment-page-1/#comment-58974 Monica Hamburg Tue, 18 Aug 2009 16:44:55 +0000 http://gunson.ca/blog/?p=2161#comment-58974 I moved alone to 2 cities and although I loved the change, the loneliness at first was a real challenge. So, I guess the best I can say is, you're not alone, it is difficult and once you survive the first bit it'll get much, much better. :) I moved alone to 2 cities and although I loved the change, the loneliness at first was a real challenge. So, I guess the best I can say is, you’re not alone, it is difficult and once you survive the first bit it’ll get much, much better. :)

]]> By: Mel http://gunson.ca/blog/2009/08/17/2161/comment-page-1/#comment-58972 Mel Tue, 18 Aug 2009 15:23:34 +0000 http://gunson.ca/blog/?p=2161#comment-58972 Having moved a lot as a kid, I understand. Give it time and go out and get involved; do some volunteering and try to meet some people outside of work. You never know what you'll find when you least expect it! Having moved a lot as a kid, I understand. Give it time and go out and get involved; do some volunteering and try to meet some people outside of work. You never know what you’ll find when you least expect it!

]]> By: Chrissy http://gunson.ca/blog/2009/08/17/2161/comment-page-1/#comment-58971 Chrissy Tue, 18 Aug 2009 14:54:22 +0000 http://gunson.ca/blog/?p=2161#comment-58971 I also want to add that if you do want to come back, then that is always an option. No one would think less of you for trying Kelowna out, and we'd be glad to have you back. Just don't feel like you're trapped up there. I also want to add that if you do want to come back, then that is always an option. No one would think less of you for trying Kelowna out, and we’d be glad to have you back. Just don’t feel like you’re trapped up there.

]]> By: Chrissy http://gunson.ca/blog/2009/08/17/2161/comment-page-1/#comment-58970 Chrissy Tue, 18 Aug 2009 14:51:57 +0000 http://gunson.ca/blog/?p=2161#comment-58970 Aw, Gill! We miss you big time too! I'm sure it'll get easier as time goes on. You'll be back in Vancouver for a visit soon too! Perhaps we need to schedule a visit :) Aw, Gill! We miss you big time too! I’m sure it’ll get easier as time goes on. You’ll be back in Vancouver for a visit soon too! Perhaps we need to schedule a visit :)

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